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Tamara M.'s avatar

As always, love the way you frame risk and trade-offs. It’s so helpful.

My husband and I are “accidentally sober” — we would only drink when we’d go out with friends, and when that paused during the pandemic we lost all of our alcohol tolerance. I don’t miss alcohol now — the hangovers, the heart racing while trying to sleep, the questionable behavior.

What I *do* DEEPLY miss are the rituals around it: meeting up for happy hour, savoring a nice wine, kicking back with a beverage. I live in wine country, so wine tasting is a local pastime!

Non-alcoholic alternatives are becoming more common, but still tough to find and sometimes sugarbombs that leave a different hangover. All of this is to say, there is a way to get the social benefits of drinking without actually drinking — our culture just needs to catch up a bit! Maybe then giving up alcohol wouldn’t feel like giving something up quite so much?

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Aparna Miano's avatar

Very well written! As a doctor myself, I find the hardest emotion to navigate with patients is defensiveness, which is also built into alcohol misuse. People often have their own idea of what it means to be a “social drinker”. At one point I found that I was drinking more at 50 than at 25 (granted, I was in med school), because 2 glasses of wine with dinner is a lot of alcohol, for a woman, especially. So now I don’t drink on weekdays, and a huge benefit is that instead of having a drink after coming home from a hard day at work, I exercise, which does a lot more to reduce stress than wine!

The key is honest appraisal, and keeping track. If you say you don’t know how much you drink, it’s probably too much.

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