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Tamara M.'s avatar

As always, love the way you frame risk and trade-offs. It’s so helpful.

My husband and I are “accidentally sober” — we would only drink when we’d go out with friends, and when that paused during the pandemic we lost all of our alcohol tolerance. I don’t miss alcohol now — the hangovers, the heart racing while trying to sleep, the questionable behavior.

What I *do* DEEPLY miss are the rituals around it: meeting up for happy hour, savoring a nice wine, kicking back with a beverage. I live in wine country, so wine tasting is a local pastime!

Non-alcoholic alternatives are becoming more common, but still tough to find and sometimes sugarbombs that leave a different hangover. All of this is to say, there is a way to get the social benefits of drinking without actually drinking — our culture just needs to catch up a bit! Maybe then giving up alcohol wouldn’t feel like giving something up quite so much?

Janet Jeffers's avatar

When I was young, I abused alcohol. Partied and drank way too much in my late teens and twenties. I can barely bring myself to drink more than two drinks in an evening anymore, but I do enjoy maybe 2-3 small pours of wine a week, and sometimes a cocktail. A beer from time to time (especially at a baseball game or after a big hike). I can’t remember the last time I woke up with a hangover but it’s been literally decades. So I tend to feel like my occasional drink is likely less of an issue for my health than my everyday dessert habit or my love of French fries. I bristle at the idea of full deprivation of anything that I enjoy in moderation or even just occasionally. I suppose if my doctor told me in no uncertain terms I had to give it up, I would, but part of me thinks that this is one more thing in a world of possibly-less-than-healthy elements (some of which we have little control over, like the quality of our drinking water or the air we breathe) for which we all need to find our individual balance. As Joe Jackson sang, “Everything gives you cancer…”

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